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I’ve thought long and hard about this…

It’s been a while since I’ve posted (and I think that phrase is on repeat on this blog). Sure, I have been a bit of a crazy person since I went back to work but also I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about this blog and where I want to go with it. I started to wonder if I had strayed too far from my original intent with the mommy and parenting posts as of late. It got me thinking – should I start a new blog? have two blogs? retire this blog all together? I was at my writer’s block blogging crossroads when I saw this post from Muskoka Baby. Not only were Annie’s words incredibly flattering, but it really renewed my energy for sharing my experiences as a mom as honestly as I can.

So right then and there I decided to carry on with this blog. To help ground my thoughts, I looked back at my very first post:

I am determined to lead a better balanced life. I want it all (or at least, as much of it all as I can get): a successful marriage and (at some point soon) children, a satisfying career, a healthy & fit lifestyle, fantastic relationships with my family and friends, a full night’s sleep, and more… not in any particular order. I’ve been learning the hard way that as lovely as it sounds, your life won’t just “fall into place” without a lot of hard work.

As it turns out, I’m not so far from my original intent. I’m still determined to have a better balanced life it’s just that all of the things I’m balancing have shifted around. Now that I’m a mom, I feel like a different (better) version of myself. Everything has changed – from the intangibles like my attitude, perceptions, and judgements to the physical like my body and disposition. Yet, in all that change, I’m still the same person. It reminds me of that quote, “plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose” – which translates to “the more it changes, the more it’s the same thing.” Well Monsieur Karr – you were damn right.

There is so much balancing going on in my life right now that I would be a fool not to write about it. So here we go: Better Balanced Life 2.0 – stick with me as I navigate the territory of balancing all of the things I was trying to balance before just with the most wonderful addition in the world: our new baby girl. Stay tuned for stories of the good, the bad, and the ugly – coming soon…

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Work-life Balance

Work/life balance is a sneaky term that is meant to trick people into thinking that there is such a thing. A term that is meant to indicate that what happens at work is work, what happens outside of work is life, and there is a clear division between the two. Wrong! In casual conversations with my peers, the one thing I’ve heard on repeat is that companies eliminated jobs with the downturn in the economy, and then they never replaced the positions. This means that those who are left are expected to do “more with less” and for departments to churn out more results with half as many staff…. which in turn means that it’s even harder to find a happy medium between your at-work-life and your outside-of-work-life. 

Nigel Marsh, an accomplished businessman and author, quite succinctly summed up my feelings about work/life balance in his ten-minute TED talk from 2010 that really hit home. The part that stuck with me the most was when he said:

It’s up to us as individuals to take control and responsibility for the type of lives that we want to lead. If you don’t design your life, someone else will design it for you, and you may just not like their idea of balance. – Nigel Marsh

Nigel’s right! If one thing is for sure as a working adult, it’s that balance is not one-size-fits-all. It’s more important than ever to set boundaries with employers and colleagues – identifying when/how you will be available and more importantly than that, identifying when you won’t be available. And, if in doing so you realize that your employer is not on the same page as you, then it might be time to start looking for a new job. If work’s not working out for you, the only person that can change that is you.

Listen to Nigel’s TED talk: How to make work-life balance work and let me know whatyou think!

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